How to Be Unforgettable
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Greetings, friend! It’s me, Jen Glantz. I’m writing this to you from Venice Beach, California.
The other night, I went out to dinner and was 50/50 on getting the butternut squash soup. I asked the waiter:
“How’s the soup tonight?”
And he said: “'I’ll put it this way, last night it sold out, and people weren’t happy about that!”
Sometimes when we tell people they are great or doing an awesome job, they don’t believe us. It sounds too stuffy and generic. If he said the soup is great, I would have said: “Okay, I’ll have the pizza.” If I tell a friend: “I’m proud of you.” They hear: “blah blah blah.”
But if I tell them something more specific and genuine, like: “You were up against a million odds and everyone in the world would have understood if you gave up. But you didn’t. You never wavered and look at you now.”
They’ll never forget that.
I’m trying to be more like the waiter. Less surface level. More true to my heart and my words.
And yes, I got the soup. I also got the pizza too.
In this issue: How to be unforgettable, winning the Powerball, and my favorite picks of the week.
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How to Be Unforgettable
Every so often, I meet someone who is truly unforgettable.
I can’t stop thinking about them.
They show up when I smell the hint of a certain perfume. They dance across my head when a song comes on I hardly remember caring about. They make my heart tingle when I think about something they said to me 12-years-ago, even though I can barely recall the little things, like what I ate for lunch today.
Sometimes these people are people I’ve loved deeply.
Other times, these people are people I knew in passing. I didn’t even know their name.
The other day, while waiting for a latte in a random cofffee shop, I watched a woman behind me in line interact with a group of people and studied everything about her. She was…unforgettable.
She was bright and bubbly, alive and awake in a way I crave desperately to be.
Within 30-seconds, the group of strangers next to her warmed up and treated her like a lifelong friend.
She made them laugh, she made herself laugh, she hugged everyone beside her with her personality and her words, her affinity toward life.
I just kept thinking: these people will probably never see her again. But for days, weeks, months even, they won’t forget her.
It made me want to be that way. It made me eager to be more unforgettable.
So I made this list of ways people can be unforgettable. But what else am I missing?
Give someone a genuine compliment
When you sit down and really pick out the words to share with someone when you admire them, are proud of them, or just find something so awesome about them, those words stick with them. The other day, a person told me my leopard coat was the coolest thing they’ve ever seen and that my style had a personality that you don’t come across often. That compliment lasted within me all day. It felt like a lightning bolt of electricity.
Exchange your deepest darkest secrets
I can count on one hand the amount of people who know some of my deepest darkest secrets. I can also vividly reminder each moment a friend of mine told me something hidden and secretive about themselves. Those are the moments when the curtain lifts and you see a person for not only who they are, but what they have survived. That’s not something that ever slips your mind.
Put a handwritten letter in the mail
I throw out junk mail but I never toss a handwritten letter, even from old loves. Writing with a pen means that we have to be so present and so careful to pick the right words. What’s on that paper wasn’t random and rushed. It has meaning. It’s everlasting.
Show up when everyone else runs away
Want to really be a good friend to someone? Stand by them even when everyone has packed up and left. When I went through the toughest time of my life in 2016, a good amount of people in my life couldn’t deal with what I was going through. They crept away in the dark of night. A few people remained, checked up on me, and cared. For the rest of my life, I'll remember that.
Break someone’s heart
Don’t do this, please. But it’s a way to be unforgettable. The ones who have broken my heart are the ones I think about more than anyone else. It’s not good and it’s not healthy. But if a person has the power to shake the heavy rocks inside of you, you find that you’re never really ever the same, and that’s not something you forget so easily.
Tiny Pick-Me-Ups
This book is next up on my reading list. I love the author a lot.
An article that shares the interesting and bizarre world of PR.
A podcast episode if you’re struggling with what to do with your life. Spoiler alert: you’re not alone.
What to do immediately after you get laid-off.
A sweet song to press play on this morning.
Gifts to Grab:
For wedding season: If your 2023 calendar is booking up fast with weddings, this is a great gift you can grab the wedding, engagement party, or even bachelorette party. Black Friday Special: Buy one, get one 50% off.
For the person who wants to get back into working out: I realize I’m a person who NEEDS to be motivated when working out. I can’t just go to a gym and lift a weight. I need to take a class. If you know someone trying to get back into shape, gift them this. I’ve been using it for YEARS in every city I travel to.
For holiday parties, Secret Santa, or White Elephant parties: I put together a simple list of inexpensive, but cool, gifts for all these parties.
For the person who needs something cozy: Everyone hypes up this brand for being super soft and they are right. I bought a sweater from them for Goofy last year and it fully propelled me into getting socks and sweater for myself.
I’ll be back next week with a new Monday Pick-Me-Up. Until then, I leave you with this:
My word of the week is: Unforgettable.
We all have that unspeakable secret, irreversible regret, unreachable dream and that unforgettable love. - Diego Marchi
If you want to keep in touch this week, you can find me on Instagram, TikTok (for a real odd time), or on a bench near Venice Beach.
Until next Monday, I'll be cheering you on! Have an epic week.
Jen Glantz