The Pick Me Up is a Monday morning newsletter filled with advice, personal stories, and tips to help you get out of bed and jumpstart your week.
Greetings, friend! It’s me, Jen Glantz.
This week I’m working on getting better at saying exactly how I feel.
I want to be more honest.
If something bugs me, I share it.
If I’m feeling sad, I tell someone.
If I’m scared of making something awkward, I give the person a heads up that i’m doubting myself right now.
For a while, I hid my truth. I cared more about my image: online and with friends: that I just tried to be who everyone else wanted me to be.
But I don’t have time for that anymore (see below why that’s sort of a lie).
Truly, I just want to strip away my filters and grow more into myself as I grow up.
In this issue: Why it’s not true that I don’t have time, how to write a book in 30-days, and a few links I love.
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Instant Pick Me Ups
📚: Next up on my reading list is a book called Joy Hunter.
🎧: Adam became obsessed with this song and wanted us to film an IG reel to it. So we did - here it is.
💻: My mentor, James Altucher, just launched a course that tells you everything you need to know about writing a book in 30-days or less. It’s the real deal.
🛍️: Shopping for: Sharing my favorite three items for those looking for -
Workout shorts I adore and that are really flattering
My summer lipstick that really lasts (I get it in the shade Sorry Not Sorry)
Everyday items: Picnic blanket, a fun park game, chairs for the park
It's a Lie. I Do Have Time for You.
My dad used to joke that he wanted to get me a hat that said:
I don’t have time.
It was my favorite thing to say when he’d ask me to do things, big things, little things, things that honestly didn’t even take up very much time.
I’m guilty of saying this now more than ever. Except it’s a lie.
I had a baby three months ago. I’m currently trying to be a full-time mommy and a full-time entrepreneur + content creator. Even so, I do have time. I know this because my iPhone told me.
I got a report about my screen time from last week. Argh, see below:
Somehow I have the time to spend 4 hours a week on Instagram.
If you ever wondered what a person does when they spend that much time on the ‘gram, let me tell you.
Nothing of value.
A lot of watching funny videos of cats dancing to trending songs, commenting omg I love this on photos that friends post, and occasionally stalking an ex-best friend, or boyfriends, page and creating stories in your head about how gloomy their life looks without you in it.
So when I stare a stack of unopened books, put off important convos with Adam, or stick my rollerblades in the back of the closet and write it all off as:
I DON’T HAVE TIME -
What i’m really trying to say is this:
I’m not feeling up for this right now.
With a new baby and endless work on my to-do list, I’ve let friendships fizzle. I have a lot of unanswered text messages and voicemails to listen to. It’s not that I don’t have the time to respond, it’s just that I don’t feel up for responding.
It takes A LOT of emotional energy and brain power to respond to a “how are you doing” text message.
It takes ZERO effort to scroll mindlessly on Instagram at 11pm.
Once I started realizing that I do have time I just don’t have the desire, the energy, the capacity, the will, the want, the need, the drive, the fuel to do certain things, I started looking at my life differently.
The good news is that even with so much to do, there’s still leftover time that I could use for whatever I want at the end of the day.
The other good news is that i’m starting to see what matters to me now more than ever.
The bad news is that when you realize you actually DO have time, you clearly see what you don’t have - which is patience, curiosity, extra brainpower, etc. etc. etc.
All of this has taught me to get better at telling the truth.
So when Adam asks me if I want to audit our finances at 10:30pm on a Thursday night, I’m going to stop lashing out that I don’t have time to focus on this and instead share how I really feel:
I just don’t have the energy to do this right now.
Finances, eventually. Less Instagram, immediately. Time, spend it how you feel like spending it. It’s yours.
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