Stop Being That Way
Change starts with one moment and then the next
Greetings friend, It's me, your friend Jen. I'm writing to you from Times Square.
I spent the afternoon watching a friend live out one of her dreams.
When you see something on stage, read a book, or even listen to an episode of a podcast, it's hard to ever know how much work, rejection, sadness, and joy went into the creation of what you're consuming.
But if you take a step back and think about all of the heart, sacrifices, almosts, setbacks, and brain power that goes into the things that people make, you start to appreciate them even more.
So much of life is learning when to stop and press pause. Just like so much of life is understanding the power of not giving up, even if it feels like your dream is moving further and further away.
It will happen for you. Take another rejection. Try another time. You're closer than you think. You just can't see it.
In this issue: How difficult it is to do for ourselves what we can do for others, interesting reads from the internet, and a quick tip on starting Monday at a slower speed.
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Why you’re getting this: I'm Jen Glantz and this is the Pick-Me-Up newsletter. I've been sending it every Monday, for 8-years, to thousands of awesome humans, just like you. Thanks for letting this email live in in your inbox. It truly makes my heart explode with joy.
If your Monday is feeling a little sleepy:
Go easy on yourself. What can you delete from your day today? Meetings, text message back and forth with friends, something on your to-do list that can wait until tomorrow? We feel like we always have to push ourselves on a Monday morning. But just like with most things in life, it's better to start slowly. That's how you get the most momentum without getting burnt out.
THE PICK-ME-UP
I threw my laptop on Adam's desk.
“Please help me write this email,” I begged.
I don't ask for help often. Mostly because my ego won't let me.
But I was writing an email reply to negotiate a contract where I knew I deserved more money. I just had to find the right way to ask for it.
I'm so good at:
Negotiating
Writing email replies
Helping a person understand their worth and value
Coaching people on how to go after exactly what they want
But I'm a blubbering mess of a human when I have to do any of this for myself and I'm sick of it.
I write email replies for friends all the time when they don't know exactly how to ask for something.
But I handed my laptop over to Adam because I was about to ask for 50% less payment than In my gut I knew I deserved.
I wanted him to stop me. I wanted him to help me. I wanted him to be my buffer between my pointer finger and the send button on the email.
Why are we SO good at giving the world's greatest advice to everyone else?
Why are we experts in helping other people see how great they are when it's invisible to them?
Why are we the most epic hype person, cheerleader, for everyone but our own selves?
Why are we so scared to look at ourselves in the mirror and say: Jen FREAKING Glantz, you're an awesome, smart, qualified, and tremendous human being. ASK for what you deserve. Not a penny less.
Why is that so hard?
Adam started typing up an email reply and I pulled the computer back.
“I need to do this,” I said.
I needed to find the right words to ask for the right thing.
I needed to muster up the confidence to ask for this without someone else's fingers typing on my keyboard and pressing the send button.
I needed to admit that when it comes to ME, I'm soft. I'm shy. I'm insecure.
The best way to STOP being a certain way is to stop being that certain way - just once, then again, and then forever.
I wrote the email I'd write for anyone else, I pressed send, and then I looked at myself in the mirror.
At first, this cowering version of myself looked back.
Then this wide-eyed women stared back.
Finally, I saw myself. I saw myself the way other people see me.
And it was scary, but such a powerful reminder.
All my love,
Jen Glantz
Random Pick-Me-Ups
Things to Read or Listen to When You Need a Pick-Me-Up
I have to share Taylor Swift's new album - Midnights. Did you listen? Did you like?
My favorite song is this one.
A podcast about feeling invisible
What to do when someone constantly interrupts you
Random Things I Adore Right Now
I'm buying this as a gift for all my friends this holiday season - why? It makes drinking water fun and it's super simple. Everyone could use one of these!
Also on a big ice eating kick these days - IDK why but I love to add some ice to all my drinks.
A fun gift to give someone who adores NYC
Super cute item to have at-home, bring to parties, or to gift to someone for fun
FINALLY got to hold the paperback version of my book for the first time - so cool!
The Pick-Me-Up Show on Amazon LIVE!
COACHING: Need a pick-me-up? Grab yourself a pack of coaching sessions to use and let's work together on your goals, your life, your challenges, and so much more.
The End
Thanks for reading the Pick-Me-Up Newsletter. If you want to keep in touch this week, you can find me on Instagram, Linkedin, and TikTok (for a real odd time).
Until next Monday, I'll be rooting for you and cheering you on! Have an epic week.
Jen Glantz