Oh my Jen. Last week I wrote an essay about wishing to have--what would now be a 49-year-old friendship rekindled. I was the one left behind and miss the person. I may try reaching out to my former friend now. Sometimes the universe is really trying to tell us something--which ironically is how I started the essay because the universe told me to look at something related to this person and when I did, it was on the 47th anniversary of a meaningful day for the two of us. So weird. The universe knows!! Thanks for sharing!!
Besides the final NCAA game, I was thinking about this article a lot today. (I'll try not to make this a book. I just got through watching the Houston and Florida game. That ending was so stupid lol).
I've been in a period of my life where I've been cutting off a lot of my past. Most of them didn't have my best interest at heart and prayed for my downfall. It was sort of the thing where the more bad news they heard about you, the happier they were. I was never in competition with anyone and didn't want that toxic energy in my life. Also, not being the jealous type. I'm happy not because I have it all, I'm happy because I choose not to be jealous of others. Your success is my success. But I found that a lot of people I hung with wasn't on the same page.
Like you, I started to distance myself. I also started to let a lot of boats sink because it was one sided. I also didn't ghost everyone (I do stay in touch with around 3%, more on this in a sec). On my end, if it drifted to sea, I let it. When my 1st FB locked on me recently, to me, it was a sign from the Universe to keep distancing myself from a interesting past. I did not freak out, it's a break from the comparison and keeping up with the Joneses game. Life is not a competition, and the only person I'm competing with is myself.)
I also built a different life for myself after removing myself from my past. My YouTube went slightly viral. I gave speeches all over. I became a sponsored athlete and so on.
Depending on who it is? When someone reaches out I may or may not respond. For the most part. My chapter in their books are closed. I've moved on.
For me, if I don't keep my distance, they will pull me down.
Sometimes you outgrow people.
But. But. But.
You make a lot of great points here.
I reconnected with someone from my old biology camp recently. And reached out to the actual camp to make sure they were still kicking (and yess they are).
I also reconnected with someone I used to altar serve with.
I also reconnected with some peeps from another volunteer gig from 20 years ago (I re-signed up as an adult volunteer. I recently faced my fear of heights with a group of them. I think I should invest in some adult diapers when I'm up that high though lol.)
I also plan on hanging out with some high school classmates.
I think I said this a couple articles back. But when it comes to a lot of my friendships, we pick up right where we left off. I'm very flexible and meet people where they are at. You mentioned this amazing point: Friends forever doesn't mean everything will always feel the same way between two people. But it means that maybe they can swing by each other's lives, occasionally or often, understanding and learning about the person each eventually becomes. (On my end. We usually reach out to each other 2 to 3 times a year. Life is not like it was in high school, where we saw each other everyday or during the weekends for track meets.)
I've reconnected with those who were positive and uplifting in my childhood, not the ones that caused me harm.
Another great edition!! Happy belated birthday to your sweet girl!
Oh my Jen. Last week I wrote an essay about wishing to have--what would now be a 49-year-old friendship rekindled. I was the one left behind and miss the person. I may try reaching out to my former friend now. Sometimes the universe is really trying to tell us something--which ironically is how I started the essay because the universe told me to look at something related to this person and when I did, it was on the 47th anniversary of a meaningful day for the two of us. So weird. The universe knows!! Thanks for sharing!!
Besides the final NCAA game, I was thinking about this article a lot today. (I'll try not to make this a book. I just got through watching the Houston and Florida game. That ending was so stupid lol).
I've been in a period of my life where I've been cutting off a lot of my past. Most of them didn't have my best interest at heart and prayed for my downfall. It was sort of the thing where the more bad news they heard about you, the happier they were. I was never in competition with anyone and didn't want that toxic energy in my life. Also, not being the jealous type. I'm happy not because I have it all, I'm happy because I choose not to be jealous of others. Your success is my success. But I found that a lot of people I hung with wasn't on the same page.
Like you, I started to distance myself. I also started to let a lot of boats sink because it was one sided. I also didn't ghost everyone (I do stay in touch with around 3%, more on this in a sec). On my end, if it drifted to sea, I let it. When my 1st FB locked on me recently, to me, it was a sign from the Universe to keep distancing myself from a interesting past. I did not freak out, it's a break from the comparison and keeping up with the Joneses game. Life is not a competition, and the only person I'm competing with is myself.)
I also built a different life for myself after removing myself from my past. My YouTube went slightly viral. I gave speeches all over. I became a sponsored athlete and so on.
Depending on who it is? When someone reaches out I may or may not respond. For the most part. My chapter in their books are closed. I've moved on.
For me, if I don't keep my distance, they will pull me down.
Sometimes you outgrow people.
But. But. But.
You make a lot of great points here.
I reconnected with someone from my old biology camp recently. And reached out to the actual camp to make sure they were still kicking (and yess they are).
I also reconnected with someone I used to altar serve with.
I also reconnected with some peeps from another volunteer gig from 20 years ago (I re-signed up as an adult volunteer. I recently faced my fear of heights with a group of them. I think I should invest in some adult diapers when I'm up that high though lol.)
I also plan on hanging out with some high school classmates.
I think I said this a couple articles back. But when it comes to a lot of my friendships, we pick up right where we left off. I'm very flexible and meet people where they are at. You mentioned this amazing point: Friends forever doesn't mean everything will always feel the same way between two people. But it means that maybe they can swing by each other's lives, occasionally or often, understanding and learning about the person each eventually becomes. (On my end. We usually reach out to each other 2 to 3 times a year. Life is not like it was in high school, where we saw each other everyday or during the weekends for track meets.)
I've reconnected with those who were positive and uplifting in my childhood, not the ones that caused me harm.
Such a beautiful lesson and reminder <3
Thank you so much! <3